Can’t Tell Me Shit

Team Harrassement

 

Now just a little disclaimer…

There is at no time that I think I am above learning new things or that I am not open minded to varying opinions, but…

Most times people can’t tell me shit.

I am a very strong willed and convicted person. I am very confident in most of the decisions I make and even the things I put forth in this forum. Lately I have found people giving me their open opinions about my actions or decisions I have made without really knowing much about me or my agendas and/or motivations. I get bothered when people give an answer to a statement. I am not nor have I been the grammatical genius but I know what a question mark is used for and its purpose. I am very secure and mature to ask for help or insight, but usually I prefer to ask people who know who I am and my background and above all my heart. I rarely ask strangers for their opinions or insight unless that is their expertise.

The thing of giving someone your opinion is that it has to be subjective to the person’s experience who is asking the question. Sure you provide your own experience to counter balance possibilities of outcomes but most times there is no way to plan for the outcome. Not just in terms of how the outcome of events turn out, but everyone’s emotional capacities are different. So for you to expect someone to respond the same way you do is near impossible. Yes there are coincidences in our experiences in life but no two life stories will ever be the same.

Another reason I feel that people can’t tell me shit is because I always and I mean ALWAYS….

Play out everyone possible positive and negative outcome…

Mentally prepare for a fall out if I am wrong…

Develop a clear exit strategy…

Put my pride to the side…

Have a relative back up alternative…

And finally… I have bounced my decision off my friends before I make any moves because they know my strengths and weaknesses.

I can barely think of the decisions I have made in my thirties that I regret or wish I could undo. I can live with them and when making decisions you have to learn to live with them especially if they go wrong. There are so many things big and small you have to think of.

Like taking that promotion…

Relocating to that new location…

Posting that naughty photo on social media…

Buying that home…

Breaking up with someone…

Not putting on that condom with that not so special someone…

What school your kids attend…

Overeating at McDonald’s…

Regardless of how small you think a decision is they can have far reaching benefits and consequences to your livelihood, your heart, your health, to your pockets, and even your social circles. One thing my sister said to me when I was in my twenties was, “Know your limitations.” I really took that to heart. Sometimes it’s great to know what you can’t do or handle. It doesn’t mean you are weak or inferior just at that time and space that said thing isn’t for you and you always can return to the idea later.

One bit of advice I can give you is to avoid taking insight from fools or people who haven’t overcome a decision you are currently walking through. The blind leading the blind is real as shit. I see it every day in the post on Facebook. I behoove anyone to get the point that no one can’t tell you shit. It’s not just a beautiful feeling, it is liberating.

 

Peace and Hair Grease,

Rodd Klever

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