There comes a time in everyone’s life when we all need that special, down to earth, do or die, in the cut, do dirt, got your back, rolling in the deep kind of friend. My homegirl Rae has been the perfect accessory to the crime that is my life. I tell her all the time I don’t know where I would be, who I would be, and how would I be without her. I think about her all the time, she is my heart, she is my everything, and I think I haven’t had a best friend like this in years that I have loved like I love her.
Rae and I met four years ago at a previous job. Her exclamation for loving me was that on her first week there she heard me going off with some other co-workers and I was cussing like a sailor on shore leave with no rubbers. It was immediately magic. We became close. We had conversations at work all the time and she loved my zany appeal and I was enamored with the calmness of her spirit. We seriously offset each other, but one day we realized we were brother and sister from a different mother and mister.
Conversations at work led to me dropping her off at night to stimulating and moving conversations of our hearts, which lasted for hours. We were both vulnerable and transparent spirits on a journey of betterment for ourselves and the ones around us. I never have met someone who loved so hard and with little regret. When I spoke to her she understood it and never misunderstood my heart.
In turn Rae has been the big sister and moral compass that I needed at times when I knew I was going to make the proverbial fuck-up. She counseled me on my behaviors and the choices and often she saved me from my own mayhem and fuckery. I can hear now telling me “No.” and “Nein.” and “Rodd you know can’t do that.”
When I tell you this girl is my heart and soul. She has been the thing I needed to get through my thirties with minimal damage. We have coached each other, we have cried together, we have laughed together (more than any set of colored folks should), taken field trips together, and sadly we have our own language and even our own dance moves. *cue Sylvester – Do You WannaFunk… Our lives are in sync and sadly if it happens to me it’s going to happen to her very shortly and vice versa.
It’s like God sent me this gift just for me and I am so thankful every day. We respect each other’s space, but to a fault of our own there is no space needed. In the four years we have shared our time together there has not been one argument or major disagreement and the times we are apart we always find a way to find each other.
First of all I’m saying beautiful people. If you don’t have a friend like her, find him or her or make sure you are in the space to accept him or her. Having a friend that has your back and supports you emotionally and spiritually is such an amazing thing. There is never any treachery or malice and to be honest there is no shame in praying that they show up. When they do you won’t ever have a clue about how you made it without them. If you already have this friend make you sure you give them a hug or you dap them up and just say thanks.
Finally, Rae I wanna say this…
Thank you being a part of the best years of my life.
Thank you for always being there.
Thank you for never judging me.
Thank you for never misunderstanding me.
Thank you for listening.
Thank you for saying what the others aren’t mature enough to tell me.
Thank you for not only being a friend, a confidant, but above all a sister.
And thank you for loving me.
I tried to make it to the end of this blog but damnit you made me cry. That’s how real your spirit means to me. I honestly don’t imagine my life without you and no matter where you are, no matter where I am. I will always seek you out, I will always look for you, I will always check for you, and I will always love you.
Peace and Hair Grease,
P.S. If you want your own dose of my homegirl check out her blog at http://fromraewithlove.com she will get you together.